definition of NEED

today i talked with the kids about what we really NEED. a need is something we can not live without. the kids on their own came up with these two lists... we NEED: healthy food, one shirt and one pair of pants, one pair of shoes, one pair of socks, water to drink and bathe in, and we need shelter (like a tent) in case it rains. we do NOT NEED: TV, movies, ice cream, toys, clothes that have characters on it, bedding that has characters on it, 2 bathrooms in a house, a back yard, candy. i thought that was a pretty good list that they came up with all on their own. it was a short lesson but a good one. they seem to be grasping the fact that we do have more than we need and that is something to thank God for. on a personal note. i thanked God for great wind and kites. I've really been enjoying this weather right now and we have a rinky-dink kite that I've been toting everywhere. its been getting a lot of use lately. i really enjoy flying a kite and would not have known that about myself had i not had kids. so thank you Lord for kites.

Grateful Hearts Project Day 2 "grace"

Since being an adult i have wrestled with the idea of praying over meals. i always thought it was a ritual and God didn't actually hear it unless you meant it. so "rub-a-dub-dub thanks for the grub" wasn't going to matter. i never bothered to make it a routine to say grace at the dinner table even though that's what i grew up with. my children hear me pray throughout the day. i thought i was still teaching my kids that prayer was important and knew they understood you can pray at any time. one example: i was driving with my kids to my parents house 4 hours away. i was having a nice conversation with Drama about insects. i told her that each insect has a job just like humans do. Bee's make honey, etc. she asked me what a spider's job was. and i told her i couldn't remember. she said "you should pray to God and ask Him for the answer then". so that's exactly what i did. and of course i was able to remember that spiders trap and eat the flies so we don't have an over population of flies. Thank you God. i was super excited that Drama was grasping the idea that you can pray to our Lord for anything at anytime. but i did not stop to tell Him thank you. i do thank God for different things throughout the day and sometimes say it out loud. but the majority of my thankful words come when the children are not around. maybe because its easier to hear myself think when they aren't around! of course, when i start any "journey" with God i ask for his guidance and wisdom. i was blown away how quickly and clearly He spoke to me on this subject. i could go on for days, and i will! the biggest thing He asked me to reevaluate is meal prayers. so that is our next step. i will be diligent about saying "grace" at each meal and making that part of our prayer life as a family. not out of a routine. but to teach my kids to always have a grateful heart for all the blessings, especially the food we eat, that we are given each day. PS- the no-toy idea hasn't stopped their creativity. Heavily Armed asked me yesterday after coming home from work if the house was easier to keep clean since there are no toys to pick up. the answer is no. they turned their blankets and pillows into all kids of creative things. they are turning lemons into lemonade! and learning of what they really NEED and don't need. Thank you Lord for your Love and your wisdom and taking the time to help me raise children with grateful hearts.

sorry its sideways! can't figure out how to change it. this is day 1 activity for what i am now calling "Grateful Hearts Project". i think you can tell whos is who.

Grateful kids step 1

lately my heart has been grieved by the way my children have been not as thankful and very much "gimme, gimme". i know that they are only 5, 3, and 1.5. however, the first 5 years is the most crucial in teaching our children their core values and morals. so i decided that i need to change their ungrateful hearts and do it FAST. so after speaking with my husband, we decided to take all the kids toys away. yup, ALL the toys. even poor Bug had to have his taken away (or the other 2 would just play with his toys). we left mega blocks, puzzles, and books. their rooms look really clean! we had a family meeting telling them why we were taking their toys away and that after a while they could start earning them back. Drama was the one who had the most to say about our decision. go figure! she cried and said "you've made me very sad!" not only will we take their toys away but i will be doing daily activities with them to drive home the subject and adding a bible verse in there of course! 1 Chronicles 16:34 "Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good!" seemed like the most obvious choice. so today i typed up the verse in the middle of a blank page and my kids will be cutting out pictures from magazines or drawing what they are thankful for. we will put them up on their walls in their rooms so they can continue to look at them through our "grateful hearts journey" if you'd like to print this out for your own children, let me know and i will send it to you.

take two...

so much is going on and i want to take time to journal it out and share with people who care to hear about it. i am now officially an army sniper wife! so proud of my husband. concerned about the future of course. but excited too. i have a new ministry starting at church for military and deployed families (we say it that way because we have several members who have gone overseas as civilian contractors). and of course my children are growing up faster every day! so i will try AGAIN to keep up with a blog. hopefully this attempt sticks. stay tuned....

august!

i can't believe how time flies when you have three kids. Bug is now 6 weeks and has gained half his body weight. HA has been working out like crazy so he's getting big too.
Drama and Monkey are in their own beds now. they share a room right now but i think that's helping them transition easier. basically we just tell them its bed time. we kiss them good night, tuck them in, and turn the light off. sometimes they talk for a little bit. but most nights they stay in their own beds and fall asleep. this has been going on for 2 weeks now since Monkey turned 2.
Potty training is still going. Monkey actually tells me when he has to go so i take him and Drama. they get a sticker and we sing a song when they go potty.
i started rewarding them for good behavior with a sticker too and have seen them be more cooperative and even helpful since starting the sticker reward system. Drama even emptied the dishwasher for me. the items that were in the higher cabinets i helped her with. i was impressed that she knew where everything went! Monkey loves to get the little dishwasher cubes and put them in, close the dishwasher and push the start button for me. they also help me with laundry! if they help, the task usually takes longer but if i have the time then i enjoy their help. i wish they could vacuum!

HA was away at drill for the weekend. so a long time friend of mine came from Cali to stay with me. we had so much fun catching up. i miss having her in town!
nothing too exciting has been happening lately. all the days seem to blend in together. we are stuck inside most of the time since its getting up to 114 degrees here. I'm having to focus harder (this heat makes me tired) and be creative to keep the toddlers busy indoors. God bless the MOMS Club! we all have been coming up with ideas to keep our little ones busy together.
i will be leading an un-official La Leche League meeting this Thursday for the first time. its un-official because i have not completed the course yet. been trying to do some homework here and there. its great that this is self paced.
this Saturday the Monkey turns 2. I'm still shocked. but excited as well. i see the little guy he's turning into and i love it.